The Good, the Bad and the Ugly

Let's start with the ugly.....OK quick like a band aid...Some things that some well wishers need to understand. My Mom is in serious critical condition. She is in the TICU. She is stable but still critical. She is not and has not been coherent since the accident. Please, please, please do not call my Dad asking if you can come visit, she can not have visitors. Do not give others my Dad's cell number. Do not come to the hospital. Do not call the hospital looking for my mother. We appreciate the gesture but it makes my Dad feel obligated to be out in the lobby when all he wants is to be with my mom. We apologize and don't intend to offend however some well wishers have not had accurate information and were under the impression that my mom was just hanging out in the hospital with a cast which is not the case. We appreciate what you are trying to do but please stop. We know how to ask for help and we WILL call you if and when we need you...
Which leads me to the bad....Dad and Lacey got more information tonight. They have not taken the neck brace off of my Mom yet and we were told tonight it is because of a concern for one of her vertebrae. I don't know why whether it broken or what but if the doctors are concerned then we are concerned. The pelvis is serious. We were also told that timing is important with this type of injury if they operate to early it could mean surgery after surgery. So it is important to have a good long look by the specialist. He might want to operate right away he might want to look again in a week he might look again in a month. We don't know but it is not something that should or can be rushed.
And finally the good....the nurses say considering her injuries she is doing very very well. They said that she is doing better than others they have seen in similar situations. The arm specialist came and she is scheduled for her arm surgery tomorrow. Because of the pending surgery they decided to leave the air tube in and they re-sedated her. My Dad is in better spirits and we are feeling a little less shocked and a little more in control of ourselves. Its still up and down but better. Once again and always thank you, and please excuse the rantings and strong worded requests of a worried daughter.